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Journey With R.J

Thanks for joining the journey!

  • R. J Dyson / Life Coach

If you're waiting for someone else to change before you take ownership of your game-plan, well, be prepared to live disappointed, feel victimized and drink bitter tears.


It's one to thing to plan and prepare with a spouse who isn't quite on the same page. Or a team who aren't quite clear on the end goal. Or a band that's struggling to merge individual dreams with band goals. These require others to engage success together.


It's another to wait for the world to change before you go out and attempt to build into your future you.


In reality, most of our hangups are internal. Our negative self talk. Our false beliefs about the world around us and what's possible for "someone like me." And the majority of our external struggles stem from the very culture and community we've surrounded ourselves with, grown up with and settled into our way of being and doing. It's rarely the "big bad other" in some office, school or public position pressing down on us.


Q. What internal self-talk are you giving head space that's holding you back (real or imagined)? Write them down and offer a healthy response to each one.


Q. What external factors (real or imagined) are you letting hold you back from taking that next step? Write these down and respond with a plan of action for addressing each one.


Then pray.

Seek out voices that push you to plan and pursue, not play the victim.

Partner with those who are running, and have run, a healthy race.

Be grateful for your opportunity to step forward despite the world around you. Thankfulness changes things.

  • R. J Dyson / Life Coach

Yeah, I know, January 1st is simply the next day. But it's also a fantastically cliche opportunity to draw a line in the sand, step over it and walk forward. And sand isn't easy to travel in, is it? It's slow, unstable, collects in the shoes, bakes in the sun, blows in the eyes, ruins a good ham and cheese etc. But that's how life rolls on a journey.


Creatives, parents and entrepreneurs - don't let the upset of a virus that mortally wounds .4% humanity destroy 100% of your plans, goals and willingness to play in the sand.


Parents, creatives, entrepreneurs and pastors - don't let the false bluff that is critical theory (intersectionality, victimology, identity politics, cultural marxism, diversity-inclusion-equity) steal the daily opportunity you have to impact your future, your family, your audience, your team and your body of believers. Don't be a slave to false claims about who you're supposed to be according to ____________ (fill in your toxic voice / club of choice). Instead, lean into your values of working, encouraging, engaging, uplifting, challenging, critically thinking, researching, praying and courageously stepping forward in the sand despite the insidious lies the woke mob is trying to label you with.


You're art isn't equal to / with another. But it's filled with what you have to offer here and now. You're art isn't going to be responded to equitably. But your tribe of fans, family and followers will engage it earnestly.


Parents, your choices, opportunities and resources will never be equitably distributed. The world has never been fairly resourced since that beautiful Garden long ago. The input and the outcome will always be unequal and mysterious. But the values of faith and family, courage and curiosity, grace and truth, work and play and rest... these values infused into your life, your kids lives and shared with the diverse world around you will undoubtedly stir up more choices, more opportunities and more resources for the new year.


Sure, you could blame others. You could sit and wait. You could selfishly expect others to do it. You could stay bitter, angry and outraged. You could stay hurt. You could cancel the person, business or book you disagree with. You could get revenge.


Or you could gird up your loins and step forward in faith and focus. After all, you're completely free to decide the next step.

Looking forward to seeing you out in the sand running hard together. And who knows? Maybe we'll even make it to ocean and catch a few waves this year!


Happy New Year!

  • R. J Dyson / Life Coach

How do you make decisions?


So much of our daily stress arises from simply having to make large and small decisions about finances, creative pursuits, family events and what or whoever else is part of your rhythm of life.


So how do you do it? How do you make decisions? Do you have a working plug and play structure for discerning how to respond?


Below are a few of the components used not only by creatives but entrepreneurs, managers and even parents and in their decision-making processes:

  1. Give yourself a time-frame. For quick daily decisions maybe 5 - 15 minutes. For heftier, long range decisions maybe 24 - 48 hours. What works for your context?

  2. Have a clear idea / vision of the end goal (both long range and short term).

  3. Know what your current mission is to achieve your goals.

  4. What are your core values? Knowing these will offer some personal / vocational parameters when you're tempted, tired and confused.

  5. Have a go-to practical diagramming habit: pros / cons, brainstorming, priorities grid, healthy calendar etc.

  6. Invite someone into the process that knows you and your goals. Someone to bounce larger decisions off of as a listening ear, a mentor, for advice etc.

  7. A quiet space for thinking, meditating and prayer.

  8. Finally, a journal for recording your decision. Writing it down helps finalize your process and hold you accountable for moving forward with a clear mind and confidence.

What's your decision-making plan? Spend a morning writing out a draft plan and give it a try this week.


Need help figuring it out? Let's talk. Reach out to set up a free connect and let's see how a month in a personal Decision-Making Boot-Camp can help you create a life-long plan of action to fight stress and move forward boldly.