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More than ever our words matter. With our kids, culture and even ourselves. Listen in as we read through Lexicon of Awesome! Observe, reflect, and discern the weight of the words you use externally with others and internally with yourself.

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R. J Dyson is a husband, father, coach through Creativista Coaching, and author of several books, including Lexicon of Awesome, The Edge, Create Day Journal, and more. 

He's convinced that we’re all designed with the ability to imagine and create with purpose...

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Those of us who live in poverty here in America, a family of four making around $25,000 / year, our lens of happiness is dramatically impacted by our income. Even with an active faith in Christ, serving others, discipling our kids, tithing and leaning on the love and truth of Jesus daily... we believe we would be happier with a healthier income.


Those of us hovering in the middle class, $45,000 - 130,000, and actively engaged in our faith, our view of happiness runs parallel to our financial comfort.


And those of us in the upper crust of society are in a happiness ball park of our own. Our uber amounts of money (to the poverty-man this is anything above $25,000) doesn't necessarily make us happier and outside of faith we may even be equal to or less happy than those in poverty.


Why write about this in a snapshot blog post? As a creative and as a parent, happiness connects all sorts of dots in life and faith and creative pursuits.


The other day it struck me that most people who write, blog, speak and preach on happiness are comfortable in their wealth. They aren't working for their daily bread, literally, on a check-to-check basis. They don't continuously think about daily money issues, maybe retirement, but that's a luxury to the poverty-man.


Personally I'm learning to be not only content, like Paul, with my status, but more than that I am eager to practice a rhythm of happiness. Aren't you? Wouldn't it be amazing to witness a resurgence of happiness in the face of growing suicide rates, income divides and culture clashes? To see the 'least of these' rise each day with a growing sense of joy and blessed attitude above and beyond financial success?


To celebrate success beyond 'making it rain.'


No, I'm not vying for socialism, that's as big a lie about satisfaction and happiness as any. I am hinting at putting our faith into action, serving others, holding doors, saying hi, making eye contact, providing meals, sharing resources and talents and gifts and, yes, even finances. Pressing into our creative outlets, hard work and exciting seasons in parenting.


I'm not washing over the impact a healthier wallet has on our attitude, it means something. But it shouldn't mean everything.


What are your goals? What do you find most difficult about chasing after a dream or healthy desire or opportunity?


Sometimes we just need to talk it through from a fresh perspective. See our world from the outside again. Be reminded that while some dreams die, others spring up with a fresh start and kick in the a$$.


Shoot me a message or give me a call. Coaching is the art of asking questions, let me throw some at you. Maybe a little investment in what could be will be enough to engage where you are with a renewed motivation to keep moving forward in happiness. Let's talk!

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Happy Lexicon Thursday! Here's another snippet of my upcoming book on key words that do what only words can... encourage, build up, tear down, confuse and clarify.


Words mean things and I'm convinced it's super vital to choose them wisely under the roofs of our homes.



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Have you ever had to hold up a dream for someone? Nail it to a pole and wave it back and forth so they can see it clear and alive, far above the fray?


When my kids were learning to walk, each in their own season, this was our job. Brooke and I sat them down on the floor, stable and strong, then we’d jog to the other side of the room and begin to wave, shouting, “Come on, little lady, you can totally do this!” New adventures have to begin somewhere, like all of my kids learning to crawl before standing upright. Before we knew it, at some point along the journey, she took ownership of the goal, the dream to walk, and we no longer needed to wave the bandera so high.


You’ve never heard of the bandera of dreams?


Bandera is spanish for flag or banner. More loosely it’s the various colors on a flag that represent an idea, a symbol for something else. The bandera of dreams does just that. For my kids shuffling around on their knees all day long that bandera symbolized walking. Of course, it was also my dream for them, so I waved it high fully aware of the freedom they would have if they chased after it.


Christ does this. It’s part of what draws me to Him. “I am the way to absolute rescue. I am the truth of it all. I am the real life.” Christ is The Bandera of all banderas...


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Keep some eyes out for my forthcoming A Lexicon of Awesome: words that build the home (and some that scramble the alphabet) in spring 2020.

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I'm much more likely to continue pressing in on a new rhythm, a new discipline when I experience some fruit in the short term. I realized this while encouraging my kids to keep pushing in on learning instruments, writing and drawing projects and creating Halloween costumes this year. Kids reveal too much of my own heart when it comes to routines and disciplines.


I like to get up around 5:45 AM and rotate between mornings of exercise and morning filled with writing. I noticed right away that exercise made an impact - I thought more clearly first thing, I felt better and I even felt that I felt better, part of that mental game, ya know?


Writing on the other hand did not reap immediate fruit. I didn't throw up thousands of fresh insights and words and paradigms. I didn't quickly complete a first or second draft of anything and I definitely didn't strike a publishing deal. The low hanging fruit was not ripe and ready for the pluck.


Nowadays, however, exercise is still refreshing and rewarding but with a less dramatic impact on my dailies. Writing, however, has slipped into a sweet groove of edits and additions. Writing feels good and after six-months of this rhythm I'm much further along on my current project than previous haphazard non-disciplines snubbed.


How are your disciplines? Look for some short-term wins and partner them with some long term goals. Don't forget to invite your kids to press on beside you?


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