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Nexus: Lexicon

Sweet Lexicon Thursday! Today you'll step into a series of nexus points - decisions, options and obstacles - that will send you one direction or another. These aren't to be feared, no, instead, with your core values in mind, step forward with confidence. Here's a bite of another chapter of my forthcoming book: A Lexicon of Awesome.


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Ever think about the role no plays at the nexus of our daily decisions? Great and small, temporal and eternal, mental and physical, we move through a million nexus points a day. Most of them come and go with little fanfare, like the spread I’ll put on my sandwich during lunch. Jam or mayonnaise? Not quite life or death, I know. And thank God most of our decisions are free from doom, but let’s be clear, mayo with fresh apricot jam spread over a toasted baguette and tied together with freshly sliced honey glazed ham, crunchy romaine and fresh kale from the garden? Life-giving. That’s a nexus worth biting into.

Once in a while, however, we hit a vital crossroads. A nexus like no other. That lull between two incredible waves.

My decision to marry Brooke was both easy and one of the most complex nexus points I’ve ever had to process. It demanded bold noes to both real and imagined what-ifs all the while proclaiming one audacious “Yes!” to the shimmering ring permanently dressing her finger. That series of noes entangled in a myriad of nexuses has impacted every decision since - including the apricot jam Brooke introduced me to.

That weighty crossroads, which could have been met with a, “No, I’m not ready to be done slothin’ it on the couch, sporting a Boba Fett helmet and eating day old Dominos for breakfast,” has actually fostered the most beautiful and rewarding relationship I’ve ever experienced. You know what that means, don’t you? Every potentially intimate flirtatious relationship from that nexus on is a, “No, I’m spectacularly taken!” And this immovable no continues to enhance that grand yes all those nexuses ago.

Catch that?

Really solid noes, discerned well and boldly acted on, create awesome yeses later on.


Keep an eye out for A Lexicon of Awesome: a melancholic's guide to a world of better words in the fall of 2020.

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