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  • R. J Dyson / Life Coach

Shift happens.


Values shift over time. I value each hour in the day much more highly than I did twenty years ago.


I value my wife and her opinions and her divine purpose here in the dirt more than I did those first few years at the start.


I used to value, to an unhealthy degree, others opinions of my risks and dreams and action steps much more than I do now.


Yet I still value creativity, God’s Story, serving others, time alone, and putting my hands in the dirt. In fact, these values have also shifted. They've developed and matured and added depth of insight and engagement.


So the question is, what do you value in this season?


What values have shifted? What values need to shift in order to experience more and more of the greatest version of who you're designed to be so you can serve the people you want to serve?


We all place value on some things and some people, but the right values in the right season change everything.

  • R. J Dyson / Life Coach

I know, I know, the title is almost off-putting, but I'm on to something here.


When we settle with our current reality; our vocation that isn't quite what we dream of, or financial state, or attitude, or lack of date nights with our spouse, or impoverished faith... when we nestle in and pack down our bedding, we've settled. In most of these circumstances we could make a plan, envision a new future, shift our priorities, pray and instigate new habits and attitudes.


But we've settled in.


On the other hand, we have the opportunity every day to settle our plans. To position our values, goals and action steps into the most engaging arrangement for success. Establish order in our lives for the best chance of success.


For you that might mean working a job you don't like for a season as you save and pay off debt and develop your dream job on the side.


Or maybe you're slowly shifting your schedule to engage the family rhythm you dream of.


Or maybe you're finally pressing into that novel you've been planning on writing for a decade.


Whatever our current reality let's be sure to step back and take in the whole picture. Don't just settle in, settle on... Unless you're done growing, dreaming, dating your wife and simply discovering who God designed you to be and what adventures He has waiting, then by all means, settle in.



  • R. J Dyson / Life Coach

Today I received a rejection letter from the Steve Laube Agency for a manuscript I had worked on for nearly two years.


Turns out my manuscript was lost for several months in the wrong pile within his office. He was "mortified" to discover this lost book, even a book he would reject. He offered advice, a word of praise and even challenged me to engage some new areas of writing. Helpful and encouraging rejection.


Most author's books are rejected.

Most songwriter's songs are rejected.

Most movie pitches' and design ideas are rejected.


Rejection stinks. But rejection is a great way to remind ourselves that we're in the game. That we're out there boldly pitching our best. That it's a great opportunity to reflect on what was rejected.


The thing is, I wasn't rejected. Steve Laube doesn't know me. My work and my limited platform were rejected. It's not personal, it's potential. Potential to take advice and grow. Potential to create options. Potential to try again later. There's a whole box of potential waiting to be tapped within rejection.


When was the last time you were rejected? What's stopping you from going for another? Find your circle, mourn rejection, be encouraged and go for the goal one more time. Come one, let's do it!


Thanks Steve Laube, I appreciate your rejection... mostly.

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