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What's On Your Mind...Not Mine.

"Stop saying what's on your mind and start asking 'What's on your mind?'"


I was cleaning off my desk early this morning, sort of an end of week ritual to clear my mind for a day of coaching connects, and I stumbled across a scrap of paper with the above quote on it.


I don't remember who said. I don't know if I was reading a book, listening to a podcast, or had just spoken with someone. I can't rightly attribute it to anyone.


But it's a fantastic reminder to shut up and listen, isn't it?


To stop projectile-emoting onto everyone around us, and on the socials...and start humbly-inviting others to speak with us, and where appropriate, into us.


How about you?


Are you so busy speaking your mind that you've forgotten what it means to share life with others, not simply speak and spit your thoughts and feelings at them?


So, who are you going to ask, "What's on your mind?" today? Spouse? Clerk? Teammate? Neighbor? It's a paradigm shift. It changes things.

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