It's Easier to Hear the Jerk than the Ally
It's generally true. And it takes a lot of practice along with the creation of mental and physical habits to ignore the jerks around us and focus on those supporting, cheering and partnering with us on the journey.
Yes, learn from the jerks. Like, how not to live. And, of course, if they have an important point worth pondering then take it and leave the jerkiness behind.
Remember, it takes half a dozen positive words and experiences to cancel out one from a jerk. So, cut through the jerky and go live out these positives. Create them. Offer them. Build up your account and fill others along the way. Be the encouraging ally, after all, it's easier to be the jerk and we all know the easier road is rarely worth taking.
Words build up and tear down. Leave the jerk to his own pile of rubble.